New year, new you? Come on, let’s get real. By Valentine’s Day, that New Year’s Resolution is completely forgotten. We all do it. No shame, just reality. Life happens, and we get sidetracked easily, especially during the holidays. Winter weather, darkness, family gatherings, school break, expenses – all those things come together at once.
Rather than getting overwhelmed by all the expectations for the holidays and the new year, what would it feel like if this year, you gave yourself the simple gift of connection? Just focus on being present in the moments of life with friends and loved ones. Stop pressuring yourself to go more, get more, shop more. But simply make the precious gift of your relationships with others the priority.
I’ll venture to say that none of us need more stuff. But we do need more human connection. Away from the boxes we keep ourselves in…. the TV, the cell phone, the computer, inside the walls of our home. What if we gave ourselves moments of grace to have coffee, quietly, with a friend, watch a sunset with our family or make a snowman with the neighbor kids? Human connection is missing in today’s society. What might connection look like for you? Could you find a few ways to increase your human interaction?
Here are some simple strategies that don’t necessarily create additional work during this busy time of year, but can be effective in fostering connection and strengthening relationships:
- Reach out – Social connection can take many forms. Even brief exchanges with strangers create a connection. Greet the person you always pass on your morning walk. Make small talk with the friendly cashier. Thank the bus driver. You’ll brighten someone’s day as well as your own.
- Check in with loved ones, make it intentional – A simple “How are you really doing?” can open the door to meaningful conversations.
- Engage in shared activities – Whether it’s baking cookies, wrapping gifts, or making holiday plans, holiday preparations are a great way to bring people together while also reducing the workload on each individual.
- Volunteer – Take an hour out of your week to provide service to others. You’ll support those who may be feeling lonely, vulnerable or sad during the holidays and create natural opportunities for connection at the same time.
- Be a present and active listener – Put away your device! When you are truly engaged in your conversations, putting distractions aside, even if it’s just for a few moments, you are building meaning in your relationships.
- Remember what matters most – Instead of allowing yourself to get overwhelmed by the shopping or cooking, focus on the moments and connections that bring you genuine joy or comfort.
- Practice self-care – Take time to recharge by going for a walk or taking a nap. Be okay with saying no to gatherings and events. By taking care of yourself, you’ll have the energy to put toward the relationships and connections that really matter to you this time of year.
I hope your winter is a great one and I look forward to connecting with you, in person, along the way!